COUNT 'EM

      Specificity matters.
       Generalizations dilute.

      A hymn admonishes "count your blessings, name them one by one".  In yesterday's sermon, our minister noted that expressing gratitude is a "skill".  I acknowledge that I had not thought of it as a "skill" but I believe he is on target.  As with most skills, 'practice' hones the awareness as well as the ability.  While abstract appreciation can be important,  it is when our 'list' of 'blessings' becomes concrete and specific that expressions of thanks can flow from a deeper place within us.  And, maybe 'categories' for organizing and naming specifics can begin the process.

    As an aside, I have observed that for some persons, expressions of thanks  often sound a lot like congratulations to the Deity for having the good judgment to recognize their 'special-ness'. For the moment, this is not for the Narcissists among us.

     Two weeks ago, I heard an elderly clergyman say that he now understands that 'Relationships' matter more than anything else and that he wishes that he had learned that sooner.  So, there is one category:  who has made a positive difference in your life? And, telling them of their influence makes 'good listening'.  And,  if you notice that some (several) of these persons and no longer living, give extra portions to those still living.  Family, friends, acquaintances, as well as professional colleagues can be relational gifts that merit our expressions of appreciation.  (Yes, I know: some of those relationships have caused and still cause profound hurts for many.)

     At almost 77, I am increasingly aware that good health is a Trust  to be protected and nurtured.  "If I had known that I was going to live this long, I would have taken better care of myself", while often tossed off as attempted humor among the elderly, actually is not very funny, especially when historical 'bad habits' come to exact their price.  And, yes, Bad Things happen to good and bad people alike.  Consequently, good health is not to be viewed as one's 'special-ness'; nor, for that matter, are health challenges to be understood as a kind of cosmic retribution.

    Do you remember the Norman Rockwell picture of the family gathered around the Thanksgiving table with turkey and a warm glow?  Whether that was ever the norm or more an idyllic wish, as Thanksgiving Day approaches,  practicing the 'skill' of expressing appreciation (as my mother might have said) 'will not hurt you and might help you.'

    And, "Thanks" for reading these musings, meanderings and mutterings.
   Happy Thanksliving.

      Satchel