Tuesday, February 19, 2013
IT'S JUST A NUMBER !?
In a few days I will arrive at one of those 'milestone birthdays'...75 ! There was a time when that would have sounded, what ?...Ancient, Decrepit, OLD . No longer .
All kinds of cliches come to mind: e.g., 'how did this happen so fast'? A danger is to want to pontificate, to say something 'profound' about 'lessons I have learned', or 'sage sayings for those younger'. Actually, I hope I have none of that. I am still trying to 'take it in', to assimilate some of what it means.
Fifty was not traumatic. Even gave myself a party, a gathering of friends that I called 'The Old Fogies Fitness Festival and Fun Run'. A few of us managed to run a 10k.
My 60th was on a Sunday and my three congregations each sang "Happy Birthday" after my Intern told them that it was the day; My 65th was a memorable one that will go unspecified here; on my 70th, I went riding down the Interstate with my daughter in a Mercedes convertible with the top down. This one is , well, 'different' and still not sure about what all that means , as said above. (Guess I could say that one of the prerogatives of 'aging' is being able to be repetitive).
Humor seems to help. I think it was James Thurber who said that if years had 15 months rather than 12, he would be turning 60 instead of 75. ( When I told my daughter that, she
wrote, "Sometimes I worry about you." ) And I think it was Noel Paul Stookey of Peter, Paul and Mary who said that his physician told him that he had the proverbial good news/ bad news: The bad news: you are dyslexic; the good news: you are 47. That's it: I'm 57.
Giving people a birth certificate and saying you are now X years old and here are the age-appropriate behaviors is a tad restrictive. My office is on the third floor of an elevator-less house. Sometimes I forget to be 'dignified' when bounding up the stairs. Several years ago, when I was 66, I was at the U-turn of a flight of stairs when I overheard the woman at the top of the steps muttering to herself: "These steps bother me; these steps frighten me; I had better hold on to the railing; these steps are not for old people." My curiosity caused me to inquire: "How 'old' is old?" She said, "Fifty-eight". Attempting some humor, I said, "I'm 66 and I run up and down these steps all the time." She almost spat back, "That's the difference...you do it all the time." I realized that I didnot know her or her story, so I made no reply. But she had just told me that I was OLD and I disagreed.
Some gerontologists maintain that there are three progressions of 'old' in society: The young old who are 65-74; next are the old, old who are 75-84; and the oldest old who are 85 and above. Mark Twain wrote that there are lies, damn lies and statistics. I am not in denial of my numbers, but I am in resistance to being made a statistical category.
Today I received a YouTube clip of a woman in California who just had her driver's license renewed on her 105 birthday.
Talk about 'age-inappropriate' behavior !
I need to ponder further this milestone, but for now, here again is Satchel Paige's profound inquiry: "How old would you be if you didn't know how old you were?"
Satchel
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As I've 'aged', the relativity of the number continues to grow. I'm in my 60's - some of my closest friends are in their mid-80's and others are in their 20's! As long as you can remain interested, curious, eager to learn, eager to interact with others, it doesn't matter how old you are or even how healthy you are - it's always MIND OVER MATTER!
ReplyDeleteBy the way, don't know when the exact day is, but have a happy day!
ReplyDeleteGeorge Washington and I . . .tomorrow.
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Happy Birthday, Old Thing! You beat me by 3 months! Since you are there already, how does it seem?
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