"You tested positive for prostate cancer"
It was early 2005. I was 67 years old. The bearer of that stark message was Dr. Daljit Caberwal, a Urologist to whom I had been referred following an elevated PSA reading. When my wife asked about the perception that older men died with prostate cancer rather than because of it, I loved his response: "Not someone as Young as he is." Then he reviewed my options and I chose radical surgery which he would schedule ASAP.
What a way to spoil a week-end getaway to the beach that my wife and I had planned ! We had already placed our packed suitcases in the car, stopping by his office while on our way. I remember very little about that week-end.
Surgery was successful. In the ensuing years, I have seen him for check-ups and, gratefully, there has been no recurrence. At all times, I have experienced him and his office staff as the epitome of professionalism and human kindness.
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| With Dr. Caberwal on March 19, 2021 |
In the ensuing years, I have learned more about this disease that can be so lethal for men. Recent publications in the UK and Australia indicate that more men now die of prostate cancer than women with breast cancer. Suggested reasons include men's aversion to screenings. Prostate cancer is also among the most heritable types. And it is unclear why Black men are at higher risk than others. Often I relate that I have become "a self appointed emissary to men over 40 to be screened." In recent years, two of my friends from high school and seminary times have died from this disease.
Dr. Caberwal has practiced medicine for over 50 years and his nearby clinic is closing at the end of March after 45 years of serving patients in this area. Known for his personal care, he has never conveyed a sense of dismissal of his patients. In an era when 'the computer', also known as electronic medical records, and time-limited appointments have become commonplace, Dr. Caberwal and his staff's personal care and non-hurried attention are reminders that medical care includes more than physical matters.
As a devout Sikh, he is active in his Gurudwara. When I went this week for my final visit, I gratefully told him, "You saved my life." He modestly replied, "God saved your life. I was merely the instrument. Have to keep the ego in check."
Along with countless patients , I shall miss his expertise but moreso his kindness and wish him a happy retirement.
Satchel
